Not That Bad: Dispatches From Rape Culture Edited by Roxane Gay
In this valuable and timely anthology, cultural critic and bestselling author Roxane Gay collects original and previously published pieces that address what it means to live in a world where women have to measure the harassment, violence and aggression they face, and where sexual-abuse survivors are ‘routinely second-guessed, blown off, discredited, denigrated, besmirched, belittled, patronized, mocked, shamed, gaslit, insulted, bullied’ for speaking out.
Highlighting the stories of well-known actors, writers and experts, as well as new voices being published for the first time, Not That Bad covers a wide range of topics and experiences, from an exploration of the rape epidemic embedded in the refugee crisis to first-person accounts of child molestation and street harrassment.
Often deeply personal and always unflinchingly honest, this provocative collection both reflects the world we live in and offers a call to arms insisting that ‘not that bad’ must no longer be good enough.
I picked this title as my first non-fiction read of 2019. It is timely, relevant and something I wanted to share with my teenage daughter. It explores the entire spectrum of abuse, harassment and assaults that exist when rape culture is allowed to thrive in society.
A society, we are all far too familiar with…
‘If rape culture had its own cuisine, it would be all this shit you have to swallow’
‘Rape culture speaks in every language’
There are a variety of ways these narratives are delivered, and each portray a differing experience. From victim blaming in society, from the point of view of a victim and male entitlement to female attention etc. Every page helps shape your opinion of abuse, from victim, to abuser.
This book carries with it, so many truths, women need to hear
The narratives are explored in such a way, that I felt I was listening in to the conversations of a group therapy session. It is incredibly powerful writing which touches on LGBT, trans, self-blame, risky behaviour and coming to terms with abuse.
‘Angry women are always the villains’
Highly recommended 5*